Continuing the previous post about 20 habits mentally strong people have learned to eliminate from the way the approach life…
11. Trying To Please People
A job well done is a job well done, no matter who is judging the final product. You can’t please everybody, but you can always manage to do your very best. This is another maturity thing where you just have to learn it through hard knocks. I guess it wasn’t until my 30’s when this one really sunk in.
12. Blaming Themselves For Things Outside Their Control
The mentally strong know the things they can control, understand the things they cannot control, and avoid even thinking about that which is completely out of their hands. Like the one above, the sooner you learn it the better, but I think it takes seeing a lot of things crash and burn to understand it’s rarely avoidable.
13. Being Impatient
Patience isn’t just a virtue; it is the virtue. Most people don’t fail because they aren’t good enough, or aren’t capable of winning or succeeding. Most people fail because they are impatient and give up before their time has come. So true. I’m impatient with people. I’m impatient with inefficient processes, but when it comes to dreams… I stick to them and in the end they always work out.
14. Being Misunderstood
Communication is key in any properly functioning system. When it comes to people, things get a bit more complicated. Simply stating information is never enough; if the receiving party misunderstands you, your message is not being properly relayed. The mentally strong do their best to be understood and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings. I keep telling my team communication is not a process it’s an evolution. This is what I mean.
15. Feeling Like You’re Owed
You aren’t owed anything in life. You were born; the rest is up to you. Life doesn’t owe you anything. Others don’t owe you anything. If you want something in life, you only owe it to yourself to go out and get it. In life, there are no handouts. Such an important lesson and so few people get it. I wasn’t born rich or privileged.. I worked my ass off to get here.
16. Repeating Mistakes
Make a mistake once, okay. Make a mistake twice… not so okay. Make the same mistake a third time, you may need to consider that you are doing something significantly wrong. Some things just can’t be fixed or learned. Some people just aren’t cut out for certain things. Recognize this and move on.
17. Giving Into Their Fears
The world can be a scary place. Some things frighten us with good cause, but most of our fears are illogical. If you know that you want to try something, try it. I’ve known fear, but have never really been afraid… Am I blessed or just so open to the prospect of failing before I succeed that nothing really scares me? Both I guess.
18. Acting Without Calculating
The mentally strong know better than to act before completely understanding the situation at hand. If you have time to ponder over something and cover all your bases, then do so. Not doing so is pure laziness. You need the data, both sides of the story, etc… Another Star Trek lesson. Thanks Kirk and Picard!
19. Refusing Help From Others
You’re not Superman; you can’t do it all. Even if you can, why should you? If others are offering to help, let them help. Be social. Listen to their ideas and watch how they do things. You may learn something. If not, then you can teach them something and do what humans are meant to do: socialize. Ok this one I fail at a lot, I like wearing the cape. But I do listen, it’s the trust part I find challenging.
20. Throwing In The Towel
The biggest weakness in all of humanity is giving up — calling it quits, throwing in the towel. The mentally strong go about things in such a way. Only do things if they are important to you; forget the things that aren’t important to you. If they’re important to you, then pursue them until you succeed. No exceptions, ever. Yes! I’m gonna die trying before I give up.
I hope this helps inspire or empower or embolden some one. That’s my reason for existing… To share a little of what drives me with as many people as I can!